This issue about forgiveness requires something.
Looking at the pain. Facing the pain square on. There, Jesus on the cross means something monumental – He died for this pain I am feeling. Betrayal, hurt, wrong accusations, etc. At this point, I can look out of myself and up onto Jesus on that cross. I bring not just the event, but ev-er-y-th-in-g. I bring all persons, all feelings, all thoughts inside me and around me to that cross. At this point I bring the one who failed, who messed up, who abandoned. It is all brought there – at the cross. The unconditional love of Jesus is seen visibly and His holiness cleanses me. I am loved. Maybe I feel His embrace. Maybe I do not feel anything, but I know His holiness is at work. And there, right there, I forgive.
The struggle of avoidance is over. I have indeed forgiven. The distance is gone – Jesus, Son of God – closer to me than my beating heart. Friend. Savior. Lord. — King!
A few songs express this process I am talking about. They came as a result of these very kinds of events. “By Your Blood” and “I Will Not Leave” were recorded as one song to help through this process. Another helpful song is my quiet healing song, “Hallelujah,” which expresses the process above.
This issue about forgiveness requires time. Time. Time. Time. It can be a process of days. Perhaps those 40 days each year. Quite essential. Truly we need more than those forty days. Forgiveness is a lifestyle. Music is one tool to help us take the time. One song perhaps. One or two I bring into my time of prayer.
Look at the pain. Face that cross and let it mirror your life. Staying with it brings a bitter-sweet result!